I am just me
I am just me. I am not better than other people, not worse, not even the same. I am just me.
that’s freeing.
competition, judgement,
social conditioning
human nature.
why are we killing ourselves?
who are we kidding?
20 Sept 2008
Dropped my cellphone today, and the lucky streak stopped. I now have a pink line on the screen, lol.
Discovered that Dale Carnegie’s “5 Essential People Skills” is perfect for my needs. Learn to be assertive. Just started listening to the audiobook now. Will post some digestible summary and points later.
ah, ngantuk. ikut bazaar mendadak, launched a venture. Helped me launch, give me sense of urgency. And I learn quite a lot about setting up a booth at bazaars. Not quite worth the money, yah, I’ll consider it a lesson learned, lesson earned. investasi laah…
Anyway, the venture is: professional resume writer. I have set up the temporary website here: http://jasakarir.wordpress.com . I’ll start promoting it and add contents, which is easy. Because I have taken the first step: to stop planning and START doing.
Wish me luck! 
Jasa pembuatan CV dan surat lamaran
Yak, di sini gw akan memulai menawarkan jasa itu. Sudah lama sih konsep ini di kepala, dan akhirnya gw memutuskan untuk ’stop planning and just do it!’. Memang, tidak tahu awalnya, mau mulai dari mana. Tapi it’s gotta start somewhere right?
website coming soon. stay tuned.
sama seperti karir Anda, it’s gotta start somewhere, and I will make sure that you end up somewhere GOOD.
Social conditioning
@tre: New word, old concept: “Social conditioning”.
It is the word that represents all the ’should’, ‘could’ and ‘would’ in human life. Expectation, stereotype, ‘ideal’ parent, ideal child, ideal person. What’s good morally and what’s bad. Which religion to follow and which to condemn.
I think, up until now, (and i am not saying it won’t be the case in the future), i still live under heavy social conditioning. If not, what made me do all the things a 23 year old ’should be doing’ and ’should have done’? Get good grades at school, go to good college, hand out my papers on time, graduating on time, getting a ‘real’ job after college, get a descent salary, more recommended at a medium-large company.
All for what? What’s the purpose?
Run the rat race, chase after ’success’ and acknowledgement. When you are there, you realize that you are back to square one. Plus with everything to lose, everything that comes with the success becomes a burden, and you are left with no time to even LIVE.
I have always had this opinion that every single person is unique. and nobody must force or be forced to become someone they are not, or do the things they don’t naturally lean towards to.
But nonetheless, don’t take this too seriously. I am not a wise-ass. This is just part of my growth, it’s one point in my journey. Journey with no destination, lol. But it doesn’t matter. What counts is the ups and downs.
Anyway, I am currently looking for some reference on how to articulate my thoughts more clearly, express ideas, communicate concepts. I think there is still a large improvement area for my communication style. I aim to reach these three states: assertivity, brevity and clarity.
I am also trying to get more comfortable to be under the spotlight instead of squirming away and let others be the center of the attention all the time.
Ok, so from what I have gathered so far, to convey something clearly, I have to have thorough understanding on whatever I want to say. I actually know this. So perhaps, I don’t really have problem in conyeying ideas. My problem lies in understanding ideas. Haha… that comes out funny. How come this is? I am extremely good with abstract concepts, philosophizing. huh, perhaps that’s why.
Concrete ideas get communicated, fuzzy, up-in-the-cloud, socrates-y ideas are for pure entertainment.
Action plan: Play with different concepts, practice describing them in my own words. Use my sleepy lazy brain, wake up wake up!
Some keywords that will help in researching this topic:
social conditioning, convey ideas clearly, think clearly, communicate effectively, articulate thoughts clearly, communicate what you think
too many tags = ambiguity = bad communication. hahaa….
21 nyawa seharga Rp30.000
Tragis, itu satu2nya yang bisa gw katakan ngeliat berita hari ini. Dua puluh satu warga tewas terinjak dan kehabisan napas ketika mengantri zakat sebesar Rp30.000,- di rumah seorang pengusaha sarang burung walet.
Awalnya gw lihat berita itu di ticker news Phoenix TV, dimana korban tewas dilaporkan sebanyak 4 orang. Pada saat itu, gw menganggapnya berita sambil lalu, parah memang, nurani orang kota yang sudah kebal terhadap berita kematian, perampokan, mutilasi, dan kriminal yang merajalela di surat kabar yang tidak berbobot, mengumbar sensasi dan memelihara pola pikir rendah.
Ternyata malamnya gw liat lagi berita di TVOne, korbannya sejumlah 21 orang! Belum lagi footage yang disiarkan. Mengejutkan dan bikin gw ngerasa tidak nyaman. Ditampilkan wajah kepanasan dan sesak napas para ibu-ibu dan nenek2 yang mengantri. Wajah mereka dalam tenda yang disinari matahari sehingga memberikan shading warna merah. It even suffocates me as a comfortable observer.
Ditampilkan juga upaya petugas pembagi zakat mengeluarkan para korban dari kerumunan. Some are already dead. for god’s sake.
Apakah arti nyawa orang2 ini? yang berharap mendapatkan 30rb untuk menyambung hidup keluarganya, mungkin suaminya yang pengangguran, anaknya yang mengamen, atau merantau, atau pegawai kecil bergaji UMR? Bisa belanja berapa hari sih? Makan raskin, pake garam, pake sayur yang dipungut di pasar, mungkin kadang pake ikan asin.
duh, bikin miris. kok jadi melarat gini sih indonesia? bobrok, menjijikkan. dikontraskan dengan golongan makhluk makmur maruk yang tidak perlu memikirkan masalah perut. Bukan cuma om2 dan tante2 gendut di DPR MPR, tp juga pejabat teri seperti Pak RT, camat dan lurah di pelosok. Sulit, pikiran praktis, malas, kotor.
This is not me stereotyping, just ranting.
yang kaya, kaya banget. yg miskin, makin miskin.
ah sudahlah. nanti dibilang omong kosong karena gw juga belum bisa memberikan solusi, hanya bisa berteori.
[mindump] multitasking, lack focus, ADD! lol
multitasking, lack focus, ADD! lol
duh gw bener2 ADD nih, wkwkwk… ADD yang muncul justru pas udah gede, ADD yg diciptakan sendiri. I just can’t slow down, must be active all the time. i am active but not productive.
My newfound motto *cough, geek, cough*
analysis paralysis pt.2 (mindump)
mencari jalan paling mudah, paling cepat, paling handal, dan paling menguntungkan untuk maintenance jangka panjangnya
Akhirnya? over engineering. think too much, cannot make decision.
I have told myself over and over again, “I cannot have ALL information I need and then make the BEST decision”
it.is.okay.to.make.mistakes
Flownya kira-kira seperti ini:
terlalu banyak ide dan jalan yang bisa dipilih -> bingung memutuskan -> stress -> merasa tidak produktif
Ibaratnya supir taksi yang hapal mati jalanan jakarta, jalan besar, alternatif, tikus2, pintas, dan jalan2 lainnya.
Penumpang A masuk ke taksinya, minta diantar ke senen. Dalam kepala si supir taksi yang menderita analysis paralysis terjadi dialog spt ini:
“senen yah, hmmm… itu bisa lewat xxx, tp muter dikit. kalo dari arah yyy bisa langsung, agak macet sih. apa lewat abc ya? lebih jauh tapi lancar. ah, bensin udah segini lagi. apa gw isi dulu? pom bensin di deket mana ya yang enak. duh kalo gw ke pom bensin yg itu, gw harus lewat zzz dong. dari situ bisa tembus ke xxx sih. gimana enaknya ya?”
Doeehhh, cape deee….. just pick one and get going already!
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it is enough just to feel good. that makes all the difference
it’s all in my head. what i radiate
assertivity, brevity, clarity
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one essential skill for programmers are recognizing and understanding patterns in applications and systems, and then knowing where to find them again when he needs to implement his own version.
cause that’s what we do, basically. copy, paste, and adjust.
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gonna set up an online store. wpmu, i think. easy to hack. easy to expand.
came across a blog post about execution of ideas. i can add one more characteristic to my list:
“over engineering”
to save time in the future. over engineering, spending too much time planning for things that might not even happen
anyway, wordpress is one heck of a software. well written, good code architecture. clean, pretty good documentation
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discovered gossip girl on TV7 :p. The actor who plays nate is smokin hot. lol
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ah duuh, cerpenista keluarrrr. i want to create thaat….. :p
itulah, salah satu manfestasi ‘mere ideas are frickin worthless’, haaahaha…. implement! release early, release often.
huh.
uuuhhhhh
hahaha good lesson. success is not just a binary switch away, ideas are not everything. Yet it is not also about execution. Ten people might have the same idea, 3 might have pursued it, and perhaps only one will succeed. pursue/not. it’s not that simple